Discipline Your Child Without Yelling or Spanking
17 Jan
Most parents yell or shout at their children to discipline them, but it does not always work. A 2003 study states that 88% of the parents yell or spank their children. However, yelling or spanking is the worst tool to discipline a child. Children soon become immune to yelling and spanking and do not feel bothered what people think of them. Often, they get angry and take drastic steps like running away from home. The worst outcome is the failure of fostering an empathetic parent – child relation.
You can discipline children without yelling or spanking in the following seven ways:
- Rewarding: Reward your child for good behavior with his favorite food item or a most desired toy. Contrary, he can be penalized from getting rewards for a week for bad behavior.
- Tete-a-tete: Let the child know that his behavior is troubling you or others. This can be done by explaining your unhappiness with bad behavior or a shocking act committed by him. Keep your voice gentle yet firm, while talking to your child. Make the child in question imagine being in your position and propose a punishment for the act committed. This will help the child understand his wrong doing better and not repeat it.
- Hug: Love has great power and a hug is a magic circle. If you think that your child is throwing a tantrum or misbehaving, just lift him and give a tight bear hug. His excitement will sizzle off in a while. Then you can explain to him that his behavior was shocking or demand was unreasonable. For this, he needs to be ready to hear you out, so give him few moments to calm down.
- Do not react: At times, a child behaves unruly to grab attention. This usually happens during a gathering. Do not react to this bad behavior and let it pass. The child will understand that it does not affect you and stop few minutes later.
- Replace activity: Replace a forbidden activity with another interesting activity in an enthusiastic manner.
- Punishment: A child above the age of six must bear the result of his negligence or bad behavior. For example he must bear the brunt of the teacher for not completing his homework. Don’t turn into a security blanket for your child during this time.
- Enforce what you say: Explain what behavior is expected from your child before dealing out a punishment. For instance, if your child throws his food or spits it out of his mouth, he needs to know that he will have to clean it next time. Enforce what you have said at all times.
A child is like clay in his formative years. You need to mold him well with affection and well laid out principles and rules. The foresaid information will help you be a more lovable and better parent of a well-mannered and disciplined child. You will be able to make your child do what is right in a caring yet firm manner. Make your relation with your child the talk of the town for all good reasons.
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Do you even have kids? The quickest way they will learn at an early age not to touch something they shouldn’t is a quick smack on the hand. I spanked my children at early ages just as I was when I was a child. I didn’t run away nor did I resent my parents. In fact I couldn’t have had a better relationship with them. My kids are older now but are some of the most well behaved and respectful kids at their school. I haven’t even had to yell or spank in years.
In fact when we go out to dinner, my children are conversating with us happily and quietly while those kids who were raised by weak, passive “let’s use our inside voice please” parents are in there tearing up the joint while being asked “in a calm manner” to behave over and over again with no resolve until they can feel the disgust of the other patrons and finally leave as we all clap behind them as they exit the room. It is people like you that preach this crap that turn out those passive parents in the first place. Do us all a favor. Write about things you actually are an expert in.