Nothing like a big brother

Having one child is an amazing thing and that usually gives people the idea to have more little ones.  This is great for the parents.  A new baby allows yo uto help bring another person into the world, shape them, help them to become good people. Of course your older child might not be too thrilled with you brining someone else onto their turf.  We have friends with two children and a few with four children  They all experienced some sort of sibling jealousy when the baby was brought home.  How did they handle this you ask?

1. First they did whatever they could to make sure the older sibling didn’t feel neglected or any less important in the family dynamic.  It’s hard to go from the baby to the big brither or sister.  Attention is no longer decdicated to you all the time.
2. Get them involved in the care of the sibling.  Help with changing a diaper, bathing, getting the baby dressed.  Make your child feel like they are part of the nurturing process.
3. Talk to your child.  Parents are always shocked at how much their toddler can understand and grasp.  Explain to them like an adult that the baby needs a lot of help to eat, get dressed, and to be safe.  Explain that as an older brother or sister they have a responsibility to keep their sibling safe and sound.
4. Don’t forget to arrange for one on one time with your older child.  Get on the floor and play with them.  Go outside and push them on the swing.  Sure you are probably exhausted going through the trials of handling a new baby, but you have to make sure your interaction with your oldest isn’t impacted.
5. Moms you need to talk to the dads and make sure they aren’t slacking.  You will need the dads to really pick up the effort as you care for a baby.

All in all kids will eventually get along.  if they don’t love each other at first just be patient, talk it out, set a good example, and if all else fails pray.